Your wedding is the most personal event you will experience in your lifetime. Although most weddings are shared with family and friends, the ceremony…more
Your wedding is the most personal event you will experience in your lifetime. Although most weddings are shared with family and friends, the ceremony itself is a confirmation of personal and intimate promises between the bride and groom. Many couples believe that these moments are far too important to entrust to a pre-packaged ceremony.
However, finding the right words is never easy. If you and your intended decide to write part of your wedding ceremony yourselves, you must shoulder a considerable responsibility. While no one can tell you what to say, some tips and ideas can get you started. Personalizing your special day is truly a labor of love that is well worth the effort.
Tip 1: Start with a traditional ceremony. Before closeting yourselves in your garrets and tapping your creative juices, meet over lattes in a quiet patisserie and look over a copy of a standard wedding ceremony. Notice the basic components of the program:
- Welcome and introduction by the presiding official
- Confirmation the couple agrees to marry – “I dos”
- Confirmation of community support for the union
- Wedding vows
- Ring exchange
- Announcement of marriage – kiss
Discuss your views about the ceremony. Which parts are most important to you as a couple? Which parts seem superfluous? Many couples customize a traditional ceremony to better reflect their values and relationship.
Idea: Music is a wonderful way to instill personal meaning into the most traditional of ceremonies. Instead of readings, substitute a song that is significant to both of you. Instead of the traditional processional – The Wedding March – select music that sets the tone of your ceremony. Baroque, Classical, Jazz, New Age and Country all make unique stylistic statements.
Tip 2: Your official’s welcome is an important moment in the ceremony. Instead of the same words he or she has used to open hundreds of weddings, why not find a poem or quotation for the official’s opening remarks? The words should reflect the reasons you have chosen to wed, and the hope, anticipation, and excitement of the occasion. Try the following:
- On Marriage, Khalil Gibran
- Aedh Wishes for the Cloths of Heaven, William Butler Yeats
- For C.W.B, Elizabeth Bishop
Idea: Source material for your personalized ceremony from your own writings, those of a talented friend, favorite song lyrics, and favorite authors/poets. If your wedding has a theme, such as tropical, garden or environmental, use the theme in your search phrases online. Add keywords such as “love,” and “wedding” to find more content ideas for your ceremony.
Tip 3: Your Vows
When personalizing your vows, collaborate as a couple. Brainstorm a list of the most important principles and values you will practice throughout your marriage. You might include the traditional values of trust, respect and fidelity. You might add “laughter,” or “friendship.”
Some couples prefer to write their individual vows in private and not reveal them until the ceremony. This creates a nice sense of anticipation and a positive surprise for both bride and groom. Alternatively, some brides and groom read their personal their missives to each other at a different point in the ceremony, preferring to be in agreement on the vows.
Idea: Instill your vows with the specifics that affect you as a couple. For example, rather than just promising to “honor” each other, the bride could vow to honor the groom’s need for time to rehearse with his band, while the groom could vow to honor the bride’s time commitment to her horses.
Tip 4: The Rings
The exchange of rings is one of the more symbolic moments of a wedding ceremony, and many couples choose traditional words to reflect this time-honored practice. However, others choose personally meaningful words to say instead. As circular symbols, rings represent promises kept, everlasting love and ongoing commitment. When writing or selecting words for this part of the ceremony, let those concepts guide you.
Idea: Consider adding extra meaning to the ring ceremony with a unique touch. Perhaps the official could ring a silver bell before the exchange. Perhaps a song would be appropriate at this point in the ceremony. You could add a light-hearted note by recruiting a non-traditional ring bearer such as a well-trained beloved dog.
A wedding is the event of a lifetime. By infusing the ceremony with personal creativity, you can make it as lovely and intimate as your love. Sharing your personal words in front of family and friends is a wonderful way to envelop them in the magic of your very special day.
August 30, 2012
We loved this article and think it should be helpful. It is not easy to express your feeling in words so hope this helps as bit.
Happy Labor Day
Sheila, Robin, Amy
As the Fall Wedding Season approaches we are asked what favors are best for fall weddings. Question to ask: 1. What do you prefer, flower,…more
As the Fall Wedding Season approaches we are asked what favors are best for fall weddings.
Question to ask:
1. What do you prefer, flower, tree or herb.
- for Flowers you can do Flower Bulb Favors, they are really beautiful and tulips, iris and daffodil are ONLY available in the fall so take advantage of the season.
- For Trees the best choice is Tree Seedlings, Fall is one of the best time to plant trees , they get a chance to establish themselves before winter sets |
if you would rather not deal with seedlings ( they arrive about a week before the wedding date) tree seed kits are also popular in the Fall. They can be planted and grown indoors for up to a year
2. What about the seed in eco box kits, will they work for Fall Weddings?
- The seed kits will work any time of year because you get everything you need to grow the seeds. Some of the seeds grow faster like the sunflower and would have to be re-potted when the seedlings get to be about 2 inches in height. You could always plant a few of the seeds in the fall ( there is alot of seed/packet) and store the rest in your refrigerator for spring planting.
3. Will the seeds last until the spring if we give them out in the fall?
- absolutely they will. seed packet 2 x 2″ (number of seeds vary with species – 5 – 10 grams)
- seed packets are presented in hermetically sealed foil packets to preserve freshness
We offer quality seed. Seed is packed frequently and stored in coolers on site. Store seed in your refrigerator, or cool, dry area prior to your event date for the best germination . Seed packets can be stored in your refrigerator for up to 1 year .
4 . For Seed Packet Favors what works?
- there is a tremdous selection in the seed packet favor category: colors, designs, formates: most of the seed packets can accomodate flower and herb seed: for flower seed to plant in the ground we recommend wildflowers . They are allperennials and will come back every year in your garden. They do not necessarily bloom the first year anyway so you are not missing much by planting them late in the season.
For a indoor grower we recommend gerber daisy in a seed packet or kit. They need warm conditions to grow so a sunny window in a warm area in your house works well.
This video may help understand their nature. They are beautiful but a slow growing flower, will grow slower in the fall and winter but could be good to move outdoors next summer for the flowering.
If you have any other question , please send them our way, we are pleased to offer suggestions as well. Decorative Wedding Favors are beautiful guest gifts, meaning wedding favors from the bride and groom are treasured gifts, make them last.
All for now: August 22, 2012.
Sheila, Robin & Amy
There are many reasons to hold your fall weddings outdoors, but the ability to incorporate trees and other natural elements is one the most compelling. This article provides some ideas you can use to incorporate trees into your fall weddings.
The tree is the perfect symbol of everlasting love and romance for fall weddings, incorporating trees into your Outdoor Ceremony is a natural choice. Some of the famous Redwood trees in California have been witness to thousands of years of history, and there are reports of trees that date back to the time when humans first roamed the earth. With so much history and symbolism behind them, it is no wonder so many wedding planners are incorporating trees into their celebrations. Fall Weddings are perfect venues to celebrate trees and giving them to your guests would be a wonderful gesture creating a forest.
From lining the aisle at an outdoor wedding ceremony to infusing reception centerpieces with the boughs of an evergreen, there are many different ways for trees to play a role in your special day. Many brides and grooms choose to incorporate tree seedlings into their pre-wedding festivities as well, giving the gift of small trees to the guests at their bridal showers and rehearsal dinners. Once planted, those trees can serve as eternal reminders of the love they are meant to celebrate.
While trees can play a beautiful role in your wedding at any time of year, they really shine during the autumn season. More and more brides are choosing the fall of the year for their weddings – and with good reason. The fall tends to be a less busy time for weddings, and that can mean lower prices on wedding staples like catering and photography and better availability for in-demand venues like country clubs and exclusive resorts.
If you do plan to have a fall weddings, there are many reasons to consider an outdoor ceremony bedecked by trees in their full autumn foliage. In many parts of the country the fall offers the best weather of the year, with pleasantly warm nights and cool evenings that are perfect for dancing at an outdoor stage.
Couples can make their outdoor fall weddings shine even more by incorporating the natural colors of the trees into their wedding colors. From the bright oranges and reds of the changing maple trees to more subdued shades like yellows and browns, the trees put on a great show during the autumn season. Using different shades of those same colors in your wedding flowers, bouquets, floral arrangements and table centerpieces is a great way to create a unified look for your special day.
No matter how you choose to incorporate trees into your wedding ceremony, you can be sure that your choices will make a lasting impression on your guests. There is nothing like the beauty of nature to compliment the enduring nature of your relationship and your love.
Fall is one of the best times for a wedding. The weather can be beautiful, more guests can usually attend and you have so…more
Fall is one of the best times for a wedding. The weather can be beautiful, more guests can usually attend and you have so many options for themes and colors. That planning process can be overwhelming as every bride will tell you. Here are just a few top tips for a fall wedding;
Take advantage of the outdoors. During this time of year there are so many beautiful days and evenings to choose from. Instead of spending time and money on decorations, let nature be your backdrop. You will still want flowers and maybe even a few bows, but instead of going all out with ribbons and materials, use some of the surrounding plant life as a way to bring the event together.
Whether you have an open bar inside or outside there is a good chance that you are going to end up with lots of bottles and cans. Instead of just tossing these in the trash, set up a few recycling bins for the bartender and for your guests. The Fall weather makes everyone more mindful of the environment and people may be more likely to make the right decision when it comes to their trash, especially if you make it easy!
Another top tip for a fall wedding is to skip over traditional centerpieces. So many times at the end of a wedding the bride realizes that she has several centerpieces and has no place to put them. Consider something simple like flowers in a vase, an arrangement of cones and botanicals or a small plant or tree. One guests at each table can take the centerpiece home and continue to enjoy it .
Replace the rice with bird seed. A bride and groom traditionally run through a receiving line of guests tossing rice in their direction. However, what happens to the rice when they are done? Consider something more environmentally friendly like bird seed. With almost the same texture and feel it won`t take away from the tradition, but it will be better for the birds that are keeping watch over your event.
For many Fall represents a time of harvest and plenty. Give your guests the gift of plenty with seeds instead of a more traditional favor. Guests leave weddings with all types of favors and mementos that just end up in the trash. It isn`t that they didn`t enjoy your big day, they just have no place for another container, magnet, or cookie cutter with your name on it. With flower, herb , tree seeds or tree seedlings your guests will be able to go home, plant something in their front or backyard and have a more lasting memory of the special day.
No matter how many people attend, you know that thank you cards are a must. You want your guests to know that you appreciate their attendance as well as their gifts. Make a real statement by choosing Hallmark greeting cards that go well with your Fall theme. Choose classic colors that represent the season. You can even look for cards made from recycled paper to give your wedding a green touch.
celebration you new beginnings with tulip favors Think new life. Think blooming flowers. Think Spring as new life emerges from winter’s hibernation. Tulips are always…more
Think new life. Think blooming flowers. Think Spring as new life emerges from winter’s hibernation. Tulips are always a sure sign that spring has arrived.
But to have the joy of blooming flowers in the spring, the flower bulbs need to be planted in the fall.
Autumn is the time for planting the bulbs that will burst into bloom come spring. Its delayed gratification but the cheery appearance of tulips and daffodils an end of a bleak winter is worth the wait.
The best part. Planting flower bulbs doesn’t take much effort. You dig a hole, and drop in the bulbs and cover with soil. Give you guests flower bulbs for a unique wedding favor that will bloom year after year reminding them of your special day.
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